Have you ever been in a relationship where every time you tie yourself to them, they keep on giving you your freedom? It’s not because they don’t care; it is because they are mature enough to know that you are worthy of their trust. It’s a sign of respect to give your partner privacy. But, if you’re that someone who truly loves your partner, you’ll still shackle yourself to them even if you know that the keys are just inside your pocket!
“It’s nice to be shackled to a person who gives you freedom”
What is Love?
Did you know that when you love, you just kiss your freedom goodbye?
Love is not just an emotion or an itch that needs to be scratched; the true meaning of love is far away from the fairy tales you’ve read and far from the romantic series you’ve watched.
Love is about becoming one with your partner and at the same time, acknowledging and respecting the individuality of one another. Sounds complicated right? Well so is love! But to keep things simple, love is about caring for the interests of your partner. If before you only think of yourself; now, you will also think of them before you do anything. Below is an example on what can happen in your way of life:
Wake up > take a bath > eat > go to work/school > eat with friends > party > go home
Wake up > text SO > take a bath > text SO > eat > text SO > go to work/school > text SO > eat with SO > party with SO or go home
It’s a little bit exaggerated, but the above sample is pretty much the summary of “what will change in your life after loving someone”. My point is, they become your priority even if they are thousands of miles away. Your freedom to do anything disappears, and if you choose not to take these sacrifices, then you are choosing to grow apart from your love one. That’s the reason why it’s important to be with someone who gives you freedom, because whether you like it or not, you have to give up some of your freedom when you love.
Things that could change after you love someone:
1.) Priorities – Whether you like it or not, your priorities will change even though you have said to yourself and to your partner a million times that you have to set your priorities straight. So if you are not ready to give up your priorities, then don’t love; because there’s no such thing as little love.
2.) Lifestyle – If you are used on partying every weekend, meeting up with your friends everyday, having a quiet time everyday; then you better delete your fantasies of meeting the love of your life. Believe me, everything will change. If you are not ready to give up your old lifestyle, then this could be a problem for your love one.
3.) Everything – To cut the list short, everything will change. No matter how understanding your special someone is, everything will change. That’s why it’s very important to be shackled with someone who will give you freedom. Even though you will soon give up on a lot of things, you will be able to give them up willingly.
It’s worth it
Now that you have an idea on what it means to love, I’m pretty sure that’s there one question left to ask yourself – is it worth it?